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Kvetching
What’s a kvetch? It’s yiddish for a complainer - or a bitch. This is Helen Thomas - not that she’s a kvetch - I just like her smile.
Anyway - I got an email from Ray who obviously has nothing better to do on New Year’s Eve than surf the net and read parish bulletins. It was about SJA! St. Joan of Arc parish in Minneapolis. The pastor had shared some kvetching he hears from his parishioners when he dares try to adjust the SOP of his parish.
There is just no accounting for church people, is there. When I grew up one would never dare question the pastor - he was in charge of the parish like a little pope. So it’s not just the more Catholic-than-the-pope parishes that kvetch if something is tweaked a bit, it’s the progressivist faith communities as well. And not just parishes, religious communities can be the same way.
The Church As Police State
(I’ll post a snip from Fr. Debruycker’s pastors page at the end of my anecdotes. God bless our priests who endure such criticisms.)
- One local Church pastor has received complaints and criticism because he went with a different parish calendar this year. I hear it is more modern, I don’t know if it’s the art or there are no fish symbols on Fridays in Lent.
- Another new pastor was criticised because he had to limit the daily Mass schedule due to fewer priests available.
- In another instance, a pastor received objections for placing the new Advent wreath in the sanctuary.
- I know of a chaplain who decided to celebrate Mass ad orientem - facing the tabernacle - instead of facing the people, to the objections of many.
- I was once close to a group of nuns where some bitterly complained their chaplain never used the word “sins” at the penitential rite when beginning Mass.
- I also heard of a pastor who limited the wearing of the cassock for Sunday liturgies only - and didn’t take the objections well. The rule remains however.
- Another nun complained that the same priest did not pray the ritual prayers or use holy water when he blessed a sacramental, or when he heard confession without a stole.
- A priest I know who had been invited to a wedding, danced with another guest. A member of the wedding party asked him to stop since it was scandalous for a priest to dance.
These are just petty annoyances - but I know many priests get a lot of critical email, oftentimes scathing and mean spirited. Priests have a tough enough job as it is, I think they deserve more respect and better treatment - no matter how liberal or traditional they may be - but don’t overdo it with the pompous ones.
So here is Debruycker’s kvetch - not his - but a few he received in the mail:
Pastor’s 2 Cents: Fr. Jim DeBruycker:
“I thought it time to catch up on some e-mail responses. (Of course I will answer them from my point of view and sound like a martyr.)
1) Why don’t you lose some weight; you are so heavy you make me feel uncomfortable?
I’ll try.
2) Why do you have to say Body of Christ so loud; can you turn down the mike?
I have been preaching for the last 20 years in Churches with a poor or non-existent sound system. I’ve developed a booming voice; friends kick me under the table at restaurants and shush me all the time. Also, our family starts to go deaf at my age. I’ll try and turn it down.
3) Why do you have to talk so fast?
Blame Miss Lentz in grade school. She was my speech therapist. I used to lisp and stutter. After years of work she got me past that, but the speed is an ongoing problem. I’ll work on it.
4) I bless you in the name of the Creator, Son and Holy Spirit. It’s in the name of the Creator, Redeemer and Sanctifier. For God’s sake get a script!
Actually, that blessing is a less than adequate gender compromise which was made up by God knows who, so I made up my own which at least allows for some kind of a personal God. I did write my own script.
5) Where did the seating arrangement come from? Is it being imposed by the chancery?
When I arrived at St. Joan’s I had a couple of concerns. The mike in the middle of the altar was so clumsy you said mass around it. I was told it had to be that way because of the guest speakers’ and lectors’ needs. I suggested a separate pulpit which was ignored. After Fr. Egan’s funeral the Archbishop requested we have a separate place for the liturgy of the word. This request was brought to the Liturgy Committee whose response was, “We will do it, but not until we can theologically justify it.”
My other concern was that the Eucharist was part of a show-mass at the ‘uptown bar.’ The music is great, but it would be nice to have a separate area for the Eucharist where we could put more emphasis on it, while still being true to St. Joan’s communal spirit. In early fall Vicky Klima, the Archdiocese Liturgy Director, made a pastoral visit. We discussed different Church arrangements to heighten communal involvement while maintaining the integrity of the different liturgies taking place, as well as the music accompanying these liturgies. What you see in the gym is a result of that brainstorming: the different pods for the liturgy of the Word and Liturgy of the Eucharist, and the people engaging each other by facing each other in their seats. However, the building fights against this arrangement for a variety of reasons, including sight lines, sound, etc. It is a work in progress. I believe we had over 100 comments, out of 10,000 parishioners, mostly against the present arrangement, neck cramp being the most mentioned problem.” - St. Joan of Arc
Pray especially for priests engaged in the “reform of the reform” - there are many starting gates in this race. Fr. Jim is doing the best he can, given his starting gate position.
“What comparison can I use for the men of today? What are they like?
They are like children squatting in the city squares and calling to their playmates,
‘We piped you a tune but you did not dance,
We sang you a dirge but you did not wail.’” - Luke 7:31
New Year’s Eve
Pictured below, The Martyrs of England and Wales.The Pope on Gays

“Homosexuals hurt themselves.”
Pictured, Albrecht Durer, “The Men’s Baths”
“In his most powerful statements to date on issues involving sexual morality, Pope Benedict XVI said homosexuals end up destroying themselves so the Church has a duty to speak out on moral issues that affect the very spiritual and physical lives of man.
“In seeking to emancipate himself from his body (from the ‘biological sphere’), [man] ends up by destroying himself,” the pope told cardinals, archbishops, bishops and members of the Roman Curia last week in a traditional meeting overlooked by most of the world’s press. “Against those who say that ‘the Church should not involve herself in these matters,’ we can only respond: does man not concern us too? The church and believers must raise their voices to defend man, the creature who, in the inseparable unity of body and spirit, is the image of God.” - World Net Daily
Most homosexuals will fail to see the compassion in the Holy Father’s words, as they fail to understand the teaching of the Church as regards homosexuality, in both the Catechism and various episcopal statements on the problem so mysteriously prevalent in contemporary times.
Many gay people would assert that homophobic tendencies in culture, and society are what hurts homosexual persons. Evidence of discrimination, gay bashing, and alienation would be their criteria in support of this claim.
When AIDs first appeared in the early 1980’s, there was a huge denial amongst most gays that there could be any relationship to homosexual sex, and if there was, conspiracy theories abounded as to who was really infecting people. Gradually, places of free-range sex were closed, gay bathhouses were closed down, and gay public sex meeting places were policed. Homosexuals themselves began a campaign for safe sex, such as condom distribution and use, mutual or group sex that did not involve penetration or sharing bodily fluids, etc.
With the advent of new medications, persons with HIV found they could live longer and healthier. The plague mentality waned, and many, especially the young, thought the worst was over, or at least, the disease became more manageable. Sex gradually became freer and more unsafe, and infections once again began to rise.
Most likely, this will be what public opinion will assume the Holy Father is referring to - destruction of gay persons through STD’s. I highly doubt the Holy Father was being so simplistic and superficial in his statement.
So how does a homosexual destroy himself? We concentrate all of our values upon the here and now. Hence, HIV and AIDS aside, if we look for how a homosexual can destroy himself, we may find other more obvious means, when we examine the lifestyle and values of gay culture.
As a sex based lifestyle, gay culture exalts physical beauty to the point of idolatry. Almost every attractive male becomes a sexualized, or romanticized object. Homosexual literature and publications are the clearest example of this predacious inclination, pornography is normative in the homosexual subculture. In this sense, homosexuality debases and dehumanizes sexuality. This erotic ‘love’ withers the soul, and diminishes the human spirit.
Depression, chemical dependency, compulsive behaviors often accompany this disintegration - even in the best of homosexual persons - the most balanced and functional. The widespread use of anti-depressants and prescription sleep aids may often take the place of drug abuse or alcoholism, yet there remains the underlying problem. Again, societal marginalization or prejudice may be claimed as the reason for this psychological imbalance - what they like to refer to as homophobia. Yet, even in a perfect world of total acceptance and all that goes along with that, such as gay marriage, adoption of children, freedom to be promiscuous, etc. - even in this situation, there would remain an underlying, fundamental discontent. That is because homosexual sex is intrinsically disordered, no matter how romanticised or emotionally captivating. And the acts are DOA - dead on arrival - they are always unproductive ( not life generating), except in the sense of selfish sensual gratification.
Ultimately, and this is controversial, homosexuals destroy themselves the more they force their lifestyle choice upon the public, disrupting the common good. Nature rebels against any perversion, and there is inevitably a natural consequence, even chastisement, for sin . The Church warns against any discrimination or persecution of homosexual persons, and has spoken out against these evils and resulting violence. The Church compassionately invites homosexual persons to conversion of life, to share fully in the sacramental life of the Church, and thus to inherit eternal life.
Which leads me to the conclusion that the Holy Father, when saying homosexuals destroy themselves, he must ultimately be referring to one’s eternal salvation. All the evils I refer to are nothing compared to the loss of one’s immortal soul.
Of course, I’m just a blogger, and I’ve only read an article about what the Holy Father said, I do not know his mind, nevertheless this is my take on his statement. Although I do believe, one’s active rejection of the teaching of the Church and the commandments, while embracing and advocating an illicit lifestyle, for the sake of some semblance of happiness in this life can indeed result in the loss of heaven and the pains of hell for all eternity. In this sense, even the successful, happy and well adjusted homosexual can destroy himself.
Coincidence
My “Man of the Year”
Joseph Trojack
(This picture is not him, but it could be, no it’s me - well, not really, it’s Ben somebody - but Joe kinda looks like this - and I should too.)
Blessed Pier Giorgio Frassati was hailed from the pulpit has an example to others while he was still alive, by the Bishop of Turino no less - so I can praise a very good Catholic young man I know.
Mr. Trojack reminds me very much of Pier Giorgio. He is such an extraordinary soul. Very devout and conscientious without scrupulosity - well, not too much, he’s still young.
He comes from an excellent Catholic family, his parents are the attorney John Trojack and his wife Mary Jo. The affection of his parents and siblings as well as the example of his virtuous parents and the excellent training they provided the children are exemplified in Joe, their only son.
Joe worked for me for a short time a couple of years ago. He always came to work dressed in a tie and well pressed shirts and dress pants - every day. He was industrious and pleasant to work with. He had a work ethic unlike any other young man I knew. And he was so much fun to work with. (When he left to continue his studies, I was in a funk for weeks. He was my joy.)
Very Catholic, he prefers the traditional Mass, as well as devotion. He is extremely well educated and bright, although never, ever affected by his intelligence or education. (Despite the fact he has always been the head of his class, he maintained he had to work very hard for it.) He is a genuinely humble man.
He has been Catholic educated in the best schools while remaining a typical Catholic youth - or what a Catholic youth ought to be. He liked “dance/trance” music and crazy humor - which endeared him to me. In addition, he could quote Shakespeare, even the most obscure lines, without any difficulty, appropriate to our conversation. (Pier Giorgio could do that with Dante.) Nevertheless, he retained a rather serious and intense approach to life, without a trace of morbidity or puritanical somberness. (He always retains a “puppy’s” joie de vie - which is infectious.)
What I can surmise of his spirituality is that he has a keen sense of justice, combined with a rather tender mercy. Yet what characterizes him the most is his capacity to love, he is graced with a wonderful charity and respect for individuals,no matter their state in life, and the primary purpose of pleasing God alone.
After great discernment, sometimes agonizing, (he wondered about priesthood) he married a lovely young woman of equal intelligence and piety, Mary Shea, an accomplished artist in her own right. Mary is a lovely soul - also in her own right. When I refer to ideals of courtship and married love, these two often are my inspiration.
Mr. Trojack will be finishing his studies for his law degree at the University of St. Thomas in St. Paul, Minnesota this year. It’s tough to be married and working on a law degree. (He has other degree(s) but I never asked what they were, and he never told me.)
He is a man to watch, I believe great things await him.
He is my “Man of the Year” - I am honored to call him friend - as well as to pretend he’s my son - but he is really John’s son - the apple just doesn’t fall far from the tree. Joe would never be the man he is without such an affectionate, loving and honorable father - and good Italian mom.








