“Gay is as gay does” - Forrest Gump’s cousin.
Pushing the agenda.
A local gay activist who happens to be what I term, a neo-protestant-Catholic, often writes posts for his blog concerning the variety of ’sexual behaviors’ as regards gay men. Not all gay men like the same things, the same music, or the same sexual experience. (Of course that is essentially true - personal preference differs in numerous ways between persons.) The point he attempts to make however, is that not all gay men go in for anonymous sexual encounters in public areas - and I believe that.
That said, he claims one of the chief reasons gay men act out in dangerous and illegal venues, such as public restrooms, parks and so on, is because societal rejection of homosexuals has shamed them into this anonymous sexual behavior. He claims that most of the men acting out in this way are closeted homosexuals or bi-sexuals.
“This is what gay people do.”
Most of the homosexuals I’ve known, no matter if they are in a relationship or not, told me they just happened to like anonymous, casual sex. Single gay men told me that if they couldn’t find a date, a visit to the local cruising site would do. These men consider themselves emotionally well balanced, they are well educated, and they are highly successful. In fact, when asked, they pretty much agreed with the George Michael statement, “This is what gay people do.” (Although some of them probably think he’s trash because of his drug use.)
Of course, my friend attempts to sanitize gay behavior and cites as many academic studies as he can to support his theory that same sex genital activity is not immoral. He claims the other more disgusting expressions of homosexual sex are aberrations, and if homosexuality was accepted, the sexual practices would be as respectable as heterosexual relationships. (His argument sometimes reminds me of the Whitney Houston interview; she was obviously high, and when asked about drug use, she proudly stated, “It’s not like we use cheap street drugs.” Similarly, I guess there is a difference if gay sex is performed in a restroom or in a bed.)
The right to public sex.
Anyway, this long, sordid introduction is only to highlight a news item from the Netherlands - where gay is okay, and has been for quite sometime. In the land where almost every vice is legal, and gays have nothing to be ashamed about, gay activists in Holland concede that anonymous public sex should be legal. (Remember, this type of shameful behavior is supposed to go away if gays are accepted.) Here is the article:
Amsterdam, Mar. 11, 2008 (CWNews.com) - Dutch homosexual activist groups have expressed their satisfaction with a recommendation by Dutch police officers that the country permit sex in public parks.
A report by Dutch police suggests that sex in parks be allowed provided that it take place away from playgrounds and that contraceptives be properly disposed of.
In Amsterdam, some public parks already permit sexual activities. - CWNews
It’s always one more cockeyed concession for these people, isn’t it?
March 12th, 2008 at 10:50 am
“Location, Location, Location”
March 12th, 2008 at 1:03 pm
Was the pun intentional?
March 12th, 2008 at 1:37 pm
So, when you walk past people having public sex and your with your little kids–what do you say to them? That is so bizzare–I’m having difficulty assimilating it into my brain cells.
March 12th, 2008 at 1:49 pm
I think narcissism is involved here also. They REALLY want to be noticed (and approved of).
March 12th, 2008 at 4:38 pm
“Most of the homosexuals I’ve known, no matter if they are in a relationship or not, told me they just happened to like anonymous, casual sex.”
If you go to your local college bar, you’ll find the same thing, guys and girls.
Is it a gay problem, really?
I’m just sayin’.
March 12th, 2008 at 5:05 pm
Jeffrey - what pun? LOL! You should know me by now.
March 12th, 2008 at 5:10 pm
Thom, They aren’t into public sex though, are they? I was really writing about latrine sex, and park stuff, which also happens to be anonymous and casual… gosh, if straight kids are acting like that now, we are really in big trouble.
March 12th, 2008 at 5:22 pm
Ever worked in a public library?
Never caught two guys or two girls buggerin’, but I sure have busted some guy/girl couples. And, before it’s asked, of all ages.
March 12th, 2008 at 5:25 pm
Thom - I saw that on “Friends” but didn’t take it seriously. LOL! And - Amazing!
March 12th, 2008 at 6:18 pm
And I looked at the photo . . . and thought they were confessionals!
March 12th, 2008 at 6:40 pm
To advocate public sex as wholesome or as something that is not immoral, is reaching a level of depravity and perversity only an advanced deviant would find satisfying. What is wrong with these people?
March 12th, 2008 at 8:11 pm
Just more proof that the worst has happened: our brains shrunk from decades of underuse, and now, other organs have grown even more active to compensate for the loss. Poor Jesus; when He returns to judge, He’ll first have to shout, “Put some clothes on, for God’s sake.”
Ugh.
March 13th, 2008 at 4:35 pm
how much more of it is the thrill, the tension, even the kind of pseudo-romance [in a weird way] the uncertainty, the adrenaline rush - the mystique etc ? sure I’ve known gay cruisers and yes I believe it is somewhat hormone-induced; but I think it really has an underlying psychological agenda inherant in the whole ‘I want to be special’ [even if it means 'playing up' the being misunderstood and the 'victimhood'] ; but I really do think it has the same roots as the ‘masturbation agenda’ -the cyclical guilt/no guilt; self justification and vindication [denial] turning into self-loathing and feelings of worthlessness to the extent where the passivity becomes masochism and the desire to be used by others to satisfy them….
…I don’t know, but frankly the whole thing scares me ; and I don’t think governments should be promoting it - sure decriminalise it - but turning a blind eye and allowing practices forbidden for the heterosexual community is technically promotion !
It’s like a drug - and the mixed motives behind it all must be in some way psychologically debilitating if not downright destructive for some - not to say dangerous - especially for those bisexuals or closetted married men who are less likely to be ‘au fait’ with the scene and protocols for health and safety; and more likely to be racked with guilt for doing it - and consequently become quite easily hooked into the vicious circle of it…
All too sad….
March 13th, 2008 at 5:59 pm
I can’t think why, but I’m thinking George Michael.
Yuck.